There is a metaphysical process by which the negative desire to receive for the self alone is transformed into the desire to receive for the sake of sharing.

If I can do so much good by simply directing my thoughts, can you imagine how much damage I can do by applying my thoughts?

A single smile that comes from the heart lights up many other smiles.

Let us work on ensuring that for each one of us, our inner voices and our spoken words both contribute to a spiritual power that is welcomed anywhere in the world.

A ‘poor me’ attitude is of no use to anyone except yourself, and even then, it does not resolve anything.  You need to trust that the experience is necessary for you and that you must go through it.

“Positive words generate positive angels, while negative speech produces negative angels.” 

Jose Luis Borgia said, “Art is fire plus algebra”.

Freedom is not a goal.  Freedom is a given. 

“ … and lend without expecting anything in return.”

When you lose your income, it is an opportunity to refocus rather than retreat.  See it as a blessing rather than a punishment. 

Why is it that when you do something good, especially for other people, you feel good about what you have done?

We create all the time already without even realising it.  We can enhance this creation with conscious planning, daydreaming, and visualising. 

“Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.”

What is your purpose for today? 

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This is the way to deal with an overwhelming workload.

Follow a few ground rules and you will get closer to your goal every day.

You can deal with wedding stress by not expecting a perfect wedding. What you experience before the wedding is a taste of married life.

There are times when a dreadful work situation is about our colleagues telling us to move on. Don't try and fight it - move on to a better opportunity.

You are ready for a relationship when you are ready to face the fantasy as well as the nightmare. Any relationship teaches us wisdom about ourselves.

Love from others start with self-love and is true when it is unconditional.

Do you simply believe what a figure of authority tells you, or do you do your own research and make up your own mind?

You can apply The Secret as much as you want, but if your thoughts sabotage you, you will not get what you want.

Our thoughts are originally cosmic waves of consciousness that we first turn into thought and then into action. There are more waves than people, so nothing prevents you from achieving your goals.

A journey does not only take you from point A to point B. The journey also teaches you that language is emotion more than words, and gives you experiences that are irreplaceable.

Keep learning and keep asking questions. That is a powerful way of breaking down boundaries.

I like to believe that there is good in every person, and all we need to do is keep looking and keep loving.

I am also realistic because life has taught me that this approach only works up to a point. Some people are on this earth to spread poison and malice, and with the best will in the world you cannot change them, because their mission is not to change.

There have been times in my life when I was so bombarded with negative energy that I felt I was being dragged down into the same space as the people who projected their lack of self-love on me. I have had to make some very hard decisions about people that were supposed to be close to me, but who were clearly out to destroy me. I had to distance myself from those people and it was very painful but necessary for my own survival.

The consequence was that by detaching myself from the person and the situation, I discovered what those people had to teach me. I was then able to appreciate the wisdom I gained from them and think of them with unconditional love - or so I thought. The love was there, but on condition that despite my gratitude towards them, I had to stay away from them if I wanted to be my true self.

I discovered that as people we are not capable of unconditional love, but we are capable of forgiveness - in the sense that forgiveness means understanding what those people have had to teach us, and feeling gratitude for the wisdom we gained from our experience.

Social media is no different from life - in fact, social media contacts are probably even more intense and instructive than having personal contact with people.

When we have personal contact with people, we can lie and pretend, and get away with it for a while. With social media, every word and sentence you type carries its own energy, and people pick up on that energy, even if they deny that such energy exists.

On social media I have blocked contact with a handful of people of the type of "hi mem I want to merry nice amerikin girl mem do you life alone mem".  I have blocked contact with one other person who was incredibly destructive and who on more than one occasion had a field day while intoxicated, only to brag about the situation afterwards.

I do believe in freedom of speech, and I also believe that bad energy rubs off. There are times when you must decide to either love and leave a contact, or be dragged down to the level where that contact feels comfortable. This is no different from life away from the internet, just more intense and therefore happening much faster.

If you ever decide to block a social media contact, I trust that you will do it with love and understanding rather than with anger and resentment.

Are there things in your past that you would rather forget? Do you regret things you did, or opportunities that you missed?

Do you sometimes think how different your future will be if only you could change your past? Now there is a scary thought - why would you want to change your past?

Think of your life as a series of events. Each event has a purpose, otherwise it would not happen.

Now think of all those events that you would rather forget or wipe out. What was the purpose of each one of those events? How did each one of them contribute to making you the person you are today? And what kind of person would you have been had it not been for those events?

For example, you had the opportunity to study and get a qualification. At the time, you did not want to take on the financial obligations, and you could not imagine yourself being disciplined enough to study for three years. Instead, when your parents finally kicked you out of the nest, you took the first job that came your way. You earned enough to survive and have a good time with your friends.

Then one morning you woke up and realized what you had done by turning down the opportunity to study.

What is next? Too often you get caught in a spiral of self-blame and self-pity. You focus on the missed opportunities and you tell the younger generation not to do what you have done.

Do you step back and identify and appreciate everything you have done in the meantime? Do you think of the people who look up at you as their natural leader? Do you list the skills you have gained along the way? Do you look at yourself as a unique person with character traits that are not taught as part of any formal qualification, such as empathy, using your discernment to decide who should be given a hand up and who should be left to learn from their "mistakes", how to manage your finances, and so on? The list of what you have learned because of the route you took is often far longer than the list of things you believe you have lost.

So here is the choice: remain stuck in the past and continue to regret and resent the path you have taken, or make a list of everything you have gained and learned, that made you the person you are today. Who you are right now is a result of your past, and also your foundation for the future, regardless of how you choose to deal with your past.

The foundation is there. You can use half of it and build a future full of self-blame and self-pity, or you can use the entire foundation and build a future based on appreciation and gratitude for who you have become.

You will make the choice that is right for you.

These are instructions for the best journaling method I have ever encountered. If I remember correctly I first read about it in ‘The Artist's Way’, a book by Julia Cameron.  Believe me, it is potent - as long as you stick to the rules.

Get yourself an A4 exercise book. Set your alarm for about 30 minutes earlier than normal and have the book and a pen ready next to your bed. If this is impossible, leave the journal for when you are really tired and ready for bed - but early morning works best in my experience.

When you wake up, start writing immediately.

Here are the rules - and for best results, DON'T CHEAT:

Write your journal first thing in the morning, before you do anything else and before you are fully awake. This is so that you can make best use of the ‘sleep mode’ that your brain is still in. The little censor in your head who tells you what is OK to write and what is not, is still asleep and you will have free reign.

Write down anything that is in your mind, without questioning it. It may be the dream that you just left, or an issue that occupies your mind, anything. Just keep writing without thinking at all.

Write three pages and then STOP, even if it is in mid-sentence. Once you have completed three pages, you are awake and you lose the benefits of sleep mode.

Do NOT stop until you have written three pages. If you don't know what to write next, then write exactly that, until the next thought comes into your mind.

Don't tell anyone that you are keeping this journal. The moment you do so, you may be questioned about what you write down, and the censor kicks in and you may become aware of what you write. You don't need that kind of pressure from anyone.

DON'T read what you have written at any time during the first two months - not for any reason. It does not matter what you write. What matters is that you write. After two months, you can read back what you have written - or not.

What can you expect when you follow these rules? Your handwriting will fluctuate - it will be small, large, all over the place, very tidy, illegible, too much pressure on the page, whatever. It does not matter. The journal is between you and yourself, and nobody else will see it.

Expect to be quite emotional at times. Don't try to avoid the tears - keep tissues nearby. When you follow this method, you allow your demons to come out in a safe manner and this is very healing.

Expect to ask questions. You will write what is in your mind at the time, and you will get answers - trust me. You may not like some answers, you may not believe other answers, and others will be pure wisdom, but that does not matter. Just accept - this all comes from you and it is OK.

This is the cheapest and most effective therapist I have ever met.

Have you ever had one of those experiences where you ask yourself:” Why have things gone so wrong for me?  What have I done to deserve this?”

I have had many of them over the years.  When I was still a church goer, the standard sanctimonious answer was “Just suffer through it.  One day you will see the reason why God has punished you like this, and then you will understand.”

It made no sense to me whatsoever that this old man with a beard sitting up there in the clouds would ‘punish’ me with things like a broken leg, a divorce, redundancy, trusted friends who disappointed and betrayed me and so on. 

Surely, He had other, more useful things to do with His time than to think out these various ‘punishments’ for me?  And if He really was gunning for me, then he had his knife in for everyone around me as well, because they each had their own version of ‘punishment’.

The funny thing was that over the years I did discover why things had happened to me – and no, it had absolutely nothing to do with punishment for my sins.

I discovered that sin had nothing to do with my ‘evil’ nature.  For me, sin happens when I move away from my true, loving nature.  And guess what?  I am not the only person who has a loving nature.  The more I looked around, the more I discovered that the world is filled with good, kind, loving people.

All of these people experienced their own version of ‘sin’.   All of them wanted to know why unpleasant things happened to them.

The question I asked myself was:  why was it that while I had these bad experiences, I could not understand why or what was happening to me, but later, looking back, they all made complete sense to me?

This triggered my search for the meaning of human experiences.  My reasoning was that if we all must go through these experiences, surely, we could expedite them if we knew their purpose?

My quest has led me to two conclusions.   The first is that there really is a purpose behind every experience – but it has nothing to do with punishment or suffering.  Life is one massive experience, filled with a series of smaller experiences.  Every single life experience we have is part of a bigger Plan. 

For most of our lives we are not aware of this Plan.  We just get through every day, and we have no idea of what happens to us and how we learn and grow.

The second conclusion is that it is easier to find the reason for an experience once you have been through it.

For most of our conscious experiences, we have a plan and we focus on the outcome.  Once we have achieved the desired outcome, we are happy because we have achieved our objectives.  But all of these plans that we consciously achieve are one-dimensional.  Whatever we achieve is always less than we are capable of, for various reasons.

Then we have other experiences that we regard as ‘bad luck’ or co-incidence or other people’s mistakes that we must suffer for.  We often feel that these experiences are out of our control.  We like to blame other people for them. 

I have discovered that these ‘unplanned’ experiences are the really meaningful ones.  They are multi-dimensional.  They are not measured by formulas or outcomes of achieved goals.  They are the meaningful experiences which teach us far more than anything we can consciously plan.

For us to have successful lives, we must go through these more complex experiences. 

Does this mean that we must first experience everything and then only later understand the meaning?  Initially, yes.  It is only much later, when we have learned to decipher and respect the code of life, that we become aware of the meaning of an experience while we are having it.

We first must be in the picture and experience the picture.  Only once we know every corner of the picture, do we learn the skill of detachment.  Then we can still be in the picture, but a part of us can step out of the frame and look at the picture from the outside in.  You cannot see the picture when you are in the frame.

This new view helps us to learn our life lessons much quicker.

Don’t confuse detachment with denial.

Denial is a pressure cooker which can boil over at any minute.  Denial is a bomb waiting to explode.  Denial is something that you need to deal with, and the only way to deal with it is to stay in the picture until you can happily smile and enjoy being in the picture.

Detachment, on the other hand, will only occur when you have learned that being in your picture is natural and normal.  Once you take ownership of your life, you stop reacting and start responding.

That is when you can step out of the frame and see the whole picture.  That is when you understand the meaning of your experiences and understand that every single experience was a blessing.

We need to identify our own separation and division, and strive towards oneness.  

Be careful of decisions that are made by your shadow self when you are under duress.

Be aware of who you are, and that will help you in your relationship with others.

When things get really stressful, it is time to first look after yourself.

The people who give us the hardest time are our strongest teachers.

Hating another person is not a solution to anything.  Finding a more practical means of resolving a problem is much more useful.

If a friend does not respect your boundaries, they are not a friend.

Don't stress about what has not happened yet because if you do, you create your nightmare.

The loss of a loved one and grieving can cause mild depression. Using a diary can help you recover quicker.

Sometimes people get stuck in grief.  If you are willing to accept help moving on, there is a lovely life waiting for you.

Asking for help means you give meaning to the lives of those who are willing to give.

Bullies focus on people who do not acknowledge their own value.

Self-confidence comes from inside.  Take one small risk and feel the change.

How you use your own sexuality is your choice.  How you use the sexuality of others is abuse.

When everything is wrong, you are very close to big changes where everything goes right.

If ii is not your problem, stay out of it!

If you care about yourself other people will also care about you.

Life is a series of lessons.   Look for the wisdom and don't be blinded by the failure.

Happiness comes from within.  Other people cannot make you happy.